As we are moving towards the trainings on how to love ourselves, what love is and what it looks like, many have asked me about shadow work. They seemingly call this the dark side of their personality which needs to be understood and worked on.

I personally believe in working from the now, from your own understanding and from the point of view where you discover yourself through your own eyes instead of the eyes you’ve been looked upon by caregivers whose voice became the voice of the inner judge most people repeat to themselves unknowingly.

So yes, there are parts of yourself you may not have yet discovered or have not been willing to look at , perhaps because they were judged harshly or not allowed to be by those in whose care you once were. Those aspects do exist. Perhaps you want to be seen as nice so you reject the mean side of you which acts up on occasion or often..

My approach is different to living all aspects of your persona, as seeing with non judgemental eyes while practicing loving kindness towards yourself is bound to bring more healing to aspects you perhaps forced into the darkness of your existence and did not want to face. What if these aspects proof to be mere projections and have way more substance to them than you could ever imagine? Would you still after finding this out name them shadows? Would you still focus on them being painful aspects or traits you need to work on?

What if I told you that all your “inner child “- issues can be traced back to this one aspect and vital understanding you will have of yourself?

Do you still think it to be wise to see this aspect as something heavy or would you as I do embrace this aspect with gratitude and learn to deeply honor its reality? learning new ways in the now and letting go of secondhand information about yourself is the best gift to offer yourself. Loving yourself is easy, we just need to be reminded at times that we seemingly forgot how to. Do you need to a little reminder and practical tools on how to live in love and how to love yourself?